In the first part of this article I portrayed the negative attitudes that prevent man from being happy, even thogh he is in pursuit of happiness.
In this second part I will be discussing the real sources of happiness; what makes happiness really a apiritual food.
The purpose of our existence here on earth is to seach for happiness and to do anything within our power to control or avoid whatever may deprive us from being happy. I listed LUST as among those habits that will not give us real happiness. The antidote for lust is Discrimination. Discrimination here simply means making the right choices. This requires that we try to know ourselves, to know our strengths and our weaknesses. We are thereby able to prefer choiches that enhance our strong points and avoid taking choices that compromise our weak points. The best and easiest way to develop discrimination is to listen to the inner voice, Every one of us has this inner voice and when we listen to it we are guided on the best choices to make And we are happy when we make the right and best choice in a given situation.
TOLERANCE AND FORGIVENESS
Anger and hatred seem to be twins but not identical twins. Anger arises when some wrong is assumed to have been done to one . Hatred on the othe rhand is a negative emotional state that one habors in one’s mind on accout of someone else’s failure to to meet one’s expectations. So the antidotes to these two states of mind are slightly different. In human relations it is generally observed that people who have not been in talking terms with each other become happy when they forgive one another. Tolerance implies that if someone does not believe the way we do in politics, religion or whatever, we should let such persons have their way, they should have their space. In fact as long as we fail to allow others their freedom we ourselves are never free neither are we happy
Contentment is the antidote for Greediness. One of the greatest lessons of life is that ultimately nothing matters. At the point of exiting this earth we take nothing along with us hence St Paul is quoted as saying that he has learnt to be contented in whatever condition he finds himself The fact of change has taght me that there is no condition that is permanent, that nothing lasts forever. The journey of life is really short and all that we now care for are only for a vanishing while. Contentment rather than greed can only bring happiness to our life.
The remedy for the tendency of abnormally clinging to what we have is Detachment. This state of mind requires us to take it easy with whatever we have.These can be our children our property or our finances. We should not regard them as the sole source of our being or that without them we are ‘finished’ We should not give them more of our attention than they deserve.And especially with our family members we shold allow them to grow and live their lives without undue over-possessiveness. The path of love and happiness demands of parents to give reasonable freedom to their children for balanced growth.
Humility is a sure remedy for Vanity. If anyone who is a victim of vanity and is ready to be free ffrom that state a very sure way is to begin to develop the attutude of humility. A humble person is a silent achiever. In fact the vain person should reverse his lifestyle. he should begin to be focused, calculating and unassuming in his actions and relationships. A humble person derives his joy and happiness from the fact that he has been able to serve life and that he has been able to brighen the faces of those affected by his action. There is happiness in service.
In conclusion, let me state a simlpe way of getting an abiding happiness in our life. It is by realizing that this life is a spiritual school where man ,you and I have been sent to learn the ways of Love. When people hear about love their mind rushes to the relationship bewteen the male and female gender. That one ultimately leads to an aspect of lust. The ways of Love traverses all aspects of our life, our endeavours .When we give our very best in whatever we are doing be it cooking, studying ,farming, and we are happy at it because we see it as being in partnership with the Creator, we are student of life and we ought to be happy.
At a certain stage in life we come to realize that God in His infinite bounty is always showering us with so much love and care including life itself and the free gifts of nature it behoves on us all to be really happy, joyous and grateful.
Perhaps the greatest source for happiness for you and me is that we are always in the presence of God since in Him we live, in Him we breathe, in Him we move and in Him we have our being as rightly pointed out by St Paul. We do not procure any visa or buy any air tickect to be with Him. The Kingdom is within. These realizations should indeed make for real Happiness all through our lives as Aristotle advocated in Part ( 1 )
Let us dare to be happy always because it is our bithright to savour in this awesome state of being all the time.